Mar 3Member-onlyGuilty-Happy: The defining spirit of the last year of parentingHow can I be so happy when they’re leaving, and why couldn’t I have been this happy before? The last few months of parenting a kid who’s almost an adult are a wild ride. For this last year they’re at home, it’s been like we’re teenagers together. They’re learning how…Parenting4 min readParenting4 min read
Feb 1Member-onlyBeReal is too realI’m newish to BeReal, and I like it, but wow, we work all the time BeReal is a platform with little engagement, only a post once per day, and about the lowest-investment social media I’ve ever seen. (This is the only reason friends could get me to try it.) I…Social Media2 min readSocial Media2 min read
Jan 12Member-onlyReal philosophy isn’t about your stoic morning routineWhy we should all read philosophy — just not the listicle kind — I studied philosophy (yes, I’m aware this is why I’m still broke) as my second major in undergrad. I stuck with it even though I knew all you could do with it was teach and that I would never survive the weird insularity of getting a PhD in the subject. …Philosophy3 min readPhilosophy3 min read
Dec 17, 2022Member-onlyKids in graveyards will say the damnedest thingsAvoiding self-immolation in the balance between living fully and keeping your tiny human alive — School nights are tough on a parent alone. By the time all is said and chores done there’s barely a second to breathe and it’s bedtime. It’s a change from summer, when my six-year-old daughter and I woke up slowly each morning, ate, savored the morning and spent hours making…Parenting5 min readParenting5 min read
Dec 13, 2022Member-onlyYou’re allowed to feel resentful AFIf you don’t feel it, it will kill you Single parenting is full of little resentments. When they’re young, it’s never being able to take a shit or a shower alone, sleep through the night, wake up when you want. When they’re older, it’s never being able to let someone…Parenting7 min readParenting7 min read
Dec 10, 2022Member-onlyHaving it all, and having nothing at allA piece of hard-earned advice for single parents who finally feel a little stable Some days, I think I have it all. A fulfilling career where I work remotely and am my own boss. A team of great people. A sweet little apartment in a cute little city. A relatively…Parenting6 min readParenting6 min read
Dec 10, 2022Member-onlyMy side hustles have side hustlesIt might be time to quit your old dreams, so you can make room for new ones Even my dreams are subject to capitalism these days. I’ve got four or five side hustle projects I’ve been carrying around for years. They sit on my to do lists, being moved from…20225 min read20225 min read
Nov 19, 2022Member-onlyResist the pressure to do an end-of-year review this yearAnd what you can do instead If you’re already feeling overwhelmed that we’re six weeks away from 2023 and the holiday shitshow is kicking your ass, consider just…not. Not doing an annual review on your life like it’s a workplan you haven’t updated in six months. Not putting your life…Productivity4 min readProductivity4 min read
Nov 12, 2022Member-onlyReinventing yourself as a single parent empty-nesterThat main character energy thing probably isn’t as easy as you think When you’re at the end of the first stage of parenting, when you’re filling out college applications and teaching them how to pay bills and survive, there are these moments in between the sadness and wonder where you finally begin to think about what you will be when they leave…Self Improvement5 min readSelf Improvement5 min read
Oct 20, 2022Member-onlyWriters have let capitalism steal art from us, tooI see you beautiful writers out there, fitting into tiny boxes in the hopes of making a living. I see you out there, Josh, writing org psych leadership pieces instead of the essays on political systems that make your fingers itch to write. I see you out there, Peter, writing…Writing3 min readWriting3 min read